Monday, October 9, 2017

Friendship

Having recently been blessed with precious time with sweet friends from near and far, friendship is on my mind.

You've got troubles, and I've got 'em too
There isn't anything I wouldn't do for you
We stick together and can see it through
'Cause you've got a friend in me
You've got a friend in me-Randy Newman

This stanza captures the essence of friendship-trust, dependability, companionship

What a blessing to have that person who gets you- who knows what you're thinking sometimes before you even say your thought aloud; who prays for you, gently speaks truth even if it's hard, and who laughs until you cry (or emit any other fluids)!

How sweet of our Lord to create us for relationship-first and foremost with Him as well as with others including spouse, children and friends.

As with other aspects of life, friendship involves variations- in ease, degree, and intimacy.  Which friendships in your life are easy; in the sense that you connect on many levels, share interests or beliefs, or spend time together without conflict or much effort? Who is the person you spend time with, talking, texting and doing life? Who is the person who knows you- the good, the not-so-good and the ugly?

True friendship stands the test of time and trials. I recently spent the weekend with two gals from my childhood, both of whom were in my wedding. We laughed lots and reminisced about our shared memories. We have also been there for one another through life's bumps including skin cancer, divorce, and the death of a parent.

The degree of intimacy shared with a friend is by no means limited to how long one has known the person. I walk with a gal who has become a confidant although we have only know each other two years. I would describe both of us as authentic, not much pretense, as well as committed to our shared faith.We talk about the relational challenges we face. I can count on her to point me to Jesus first and foremost, and to challenge me to how I can more effectively handle a situation with grace and love. 

The decisive test and the most beautiful proof of real friendship will be found in the day of adversity. A friend is never known till needed. When calamity falls upon us, false friends make excuses and go; lip-friends relapse into silence; but we begin then for the first time to find out who is a friend indeed. Then it appears that the true friend is entirely unchanged by the changed aspect of affairs; it seems as if he had been born into a brotherhood with us for this express occasion. 1

Are you blessed with the gift of friendship? In what ways can you further develop your current friendships or seek out new ones? 

Pattie, a gal blessed with an abundance of friends

1 biblehub.com