What Matters
Love The Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and love your neighbor as yourself. Luke 10:27
And what does The Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. Micah 6:8
Getting sidetracked can occur so quietly, unintentionally; blindsiding us. At one point we realize, "Man, I have strayed off the path, letting minor things become major ones, causing havoc within my family."
The above verses center me, reminding me of what truly matters.
I want to emphasize the things that can distract us are not "bad" things. They can include but are not limited to character training, manners, chores, serving others, sports, hobbies, lessons, to name a few.
Thankfully, our Lord is forgiving, compassionate and merciful (Lam. 3:22). Throughout this past week he has shown me what matters by giving me glimpses into my childrens' character.
Nonchalantly, one son tells me he and his sister are home a bit later than usual from youth group because they stopped to move a lady's car out of the road; when they learned she was out of gas, they gave her five dollars.
Another son willingly drove me and his brother out forty minutes to a camp, and back, (I woke him up and he had five minutes to get ready) because I had something in my eye and was not comfortable driving. Then he asked if he could buy me coffee. While in line he said we should bring one home for his sister too.
Our neighbor's granddaughter was celebrating her ninth birthday. When my daughter learned she didn't have plans for the day, she announced she was riding with her on our tandem bike to Mc Donald's to buy her lunch.
The same girl was blessed by my son who dropped a birthday card with ten dollars in it at her front door (didn't even put his name on it)!
When we cry out to God for help, he answers. He is faithful, always. I was so frustrated that my kids were not consistent with completing their chores. On several occasions a full on meltdown occurred!
Yet, when I sought The Lord, he chose to answer by showing me what matters-would I rather have kids who do their chores regularly and not reach out to bless others, or kids who give of themselves to others and not unload the dishwasher everyday? On some days my actions and words would demonstrate I chose the former.
Our God is the God of second and third chances. Today I choose to focus on what truly matters.
Saturday, August 2, 2014
Sunday, July 20, 2014
Surrender
Surrender
Vulnerability is scary-writing your thoughts, emotions, beliefs on a public forum for all to see. Yikes!
Yet recently, the Lord has reaffirmed to me that he is all about relationships-first and foremost, he desires relationship with us. Second, he cares about our relationships with others. John 13:34 says, " A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." Because he is wise and knows our human nature intimately, he accepts us where we are at when we say yes to his call, surrendering our lives to him. However, he does not leave us there.A few verses that pop out to me are:
1 Peter 1:15-16: But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
Romans 6: 18-19: You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness. I am using an example from everyday life because of your human limitations. Just as you used to offer yourselves as slaves to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer yourselves as slaves to righteousness leading to holiness.
Hebrews 12:14: Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.
I love how the Lord brings us into new seasons, places burdens upon our hearts. Holiness seems to be what he is impressing upon me presently. I heard a man speak on holiness last night. One thing has remained with me-"We are set apart unto God; not only separated from sin, but also set apart so we can give him everything. God requires 100% from us because he gave 100%, his own son, for us!"
When we think of holiness, often a list of do's and don'ts come to mind. In some aspects of life, people expect and accept it. When on a sports team, one must meet requirements as well as follow the rules, the underlying thought being the athlete's and team's well-being.
When it comes to spiritual matters. however, people do not like being told what to do and what not to do. Personally, I think our flesh cringes at the idea of obedience, submission and surrender. Only when we know the character of God and the heart of his son Jesus can we surrender, knowing everything is related to his love for us. The bible is God's love story to us. He created us; he knows us; he loves us. The commands and warnings he gives us are because of his love for us. The things he warns us about are not good for us.
After his relationship with us, God cares about our relationship with others. In fact, he created the institution of the family. Thankfully, through his word and his Spirit he provides us with the tools to love each other, which includes the children he has given us.
No matter the stage of parenting, I need Jesus. I cannot lean on my own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6). Knowing his Holy Spirit resides in me gives me assurance and hope. No matter my former ways, I can choose to put on the full armor of God (Eph. 6:10-17). I can trust that The Lord will work through me, empowering me to exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control toward my children. Again, surrender is the key.
I need to trust his will for my day, giving him my schedule, lists and time.
I challenge you to surrender those areas you may be holding on to closely. I guarantee he will multiply your time, allowing you to accomplish all he has for you each day. This is easier said than done (until we remember he loves, loves, loves us). Like anything else, it takes practice. I encourage you to seek the Lord regarding your present circumstances.
He really will show you how to do the difficult with joy so you can reflect him to your children.
Vulnerability is scary-writing your thoughts, emotions, beliefs on a public forum for all to see. Yikes!
Yet recently, the Lord has reaffirmed to me that he is all about relationships-first and foremost, he desires relationship with us. Second, he cares about our relationships with others. John 13:34 says, " A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." Because he is wise and knows our human nature intimately, he accepts us where we are at when we say yes to his call, surrendering our lives to him. However, he does not leave us there.A few verses that pop out to me are:
1 Peter 1:15-16: But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
Romans 6: 18-19: You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness. I am using an example from everyday life because of your human limitations. Just as you used to offer yourselves as slaves to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer yourselves as slaves to righteousness leading to holiness.
Hebrews 12:14: Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.
I love how the Lord brings us into new seasons, places burdens upon our hearts. Holiness seems to be what he is impressing upon me presently. I heard a man speak on holiness last night. One thing has remained with me-"We are set apart unto God; not only separated from sin, but also set apart so we can give him everything. God requires 100% from us because he gave 100%, his own son, for us!"
When we think of holiness, often a list of do's and don'ts come to mind. In some aspects of life, people expect and accept it. When on a sports team, one must meet requirements as well as follow the rules, the underlying thought being the athlete's and team's well-being.
When it comes to spiritual matters. however, people do not like being told what to do and what not to do. Personally, I think our flesh cringes at the idea of obedience, submission and surrender. Only when we know the character of God and the heart of his son Jesus can we surrender, knowing everything is related to his love for us. The bible is God's love story to us. He created us; he knows us; he loves us. The commands and warnings he gives us are because of his love for us. The things he warns us about are not good for us.
After his relationship with us, God cares about our relationship with others. In fact, he created the institution of the family. Thankfully, through his word and his Spirit he provides us with the tools to love each other, which includes the children he has given us.
No matter the stage of parenting, I need Jesus. I cannot lean on my own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6). Knowing his Holy Spirit resides in me gives me assurance and hope. No matter my former ways, I can choose to put on the full armor of God (Eph. 6:10-17). I can trust that The Lord will work through me, empowering me to exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control toward my children. Again, surrender is the key.
I need to trust his will for my day, giving him my schedule, lists and time.
I challenge you to surrender those areas you may be holding on to closely. I guarantee he will multiply your time, allowing you to accomplish all he has for you each day. This is easier said than done (until we remember he loves, loves, loves us). Like anything else, it takes practice. I encourage you to seek the Lord regarding your present circumstances.
He really will show you how to do the difficult with joy so you can reflect him to your children.
Sunday, July 13, 2014
Pursued or Pursuing?
While talking with a friend this past week, one of our topics of conversation centered around the idea of roles people adopt when friends with someone- pursued or pursuer?
She believes most people are pursued, meaning they are most comfortable being on the receiving end of gestures and other words or actions that keep the relationship going. They are the ones reached out to, called, texted, etc.
Obviously some people are pursuers, the ones to initiate and maintain friendships. They are the first to call, make plans, keep in touch with others.
Friendships are precious gifts from God.
-Prov. 18:24: A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
-Prov. 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Personality traits (introvert or extrovert), personal experience, current life experiences, as well as spiritual maturity, all affect how people interact with others.
Having moved just a year ago, friendships are a high priority for me. Recently, interactions with two new women in my life have reinforced the idea of intentionality and its role in friendships.
After talking with my friend, I texted one of the women and told her how I appreciated her checking in with me each week to see if I was going to the beach. She laughed and said before she knew Jesus she was bad at staying connected with others; in fact, she still struggles but was encouraged by my perspective of her.
I have realized that pursuing friendships is something of value to me and to
God. In John 13:34 Jesus says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know
that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Regardless of my bent or any of the items listed above, Jesus commands me to love others. When I am walking in the Spirit rather than the flesh, this occurs more often, resulting in love, whether I am on the giving or receiving end of it.
When I get off course, I am reminded of how God pursued me. 1 John 4:19 says, "We love because he first loved us." Not only did God send his son to die
for me and make me righteous, he also continues to pursue me, daily, through his word and his Holy Spirit.
What does this mean to me as a mom? I am to pursue relationships with my children. If you are a mom to young children, this may sound strange to you-they are always with me; how could I ever have to pursue them? In fact, I would relish the opportunity to be away long enough to be pursued :)
If you are a parent of teens or older, maybe this makes a lot of sense to you. One thing I would like to do this summer is learn my kids' love language. The Five Love Languages ( also one is available geared to teens) by Gary Chapman is an excellent book on this topic.
One of my goals this summer is to learn my kids' love languages. I desire to communicate to them that they matter, that I love them.
I encourage you to be a pursuer-of God first and foremost, and to others. It is a worthy investment.
Pattie
While talking with a friend this past week, one of our topics of conversation centered around the idea of roles people adopt when friends with someone- pursued or pursuer?
She believes most people are pursued, meaning they are most comfortable being on the receiving end of gestures and other words or actions that keep the relationship going. They are the ones reached out to, called, texted, etc.
Obviously some people are pursuers, the ones to initiate and maintain friendships. They are the first to call, make plans, keep in touch with others.
Friendships are precious gifts from God.
-Prov. 18:24: A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
-Prov. 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Personality traits (introvert or extrovert), personal experience, current life experiences, as well as spiritual maturity, all affect how people interact with others.
Having moved just a year ago, friendships are a high priority for me. Recently, interactions with two new women in my life have reinforced the idea of intentionality and its role in friendships.
After talking with my friend, I texted one of the women and told her how I appreciated her checking in with me each week to see if I was going to the beach. She laughed and said before she knew Jesus she was bad at staying connected with others; in fact, she still struggles but was encouraged by my perspective of her.
I have realized that pursuing friendships is something of value to me and to
God. In John 13:34 Jesus says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know
that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Regardless of my bent or any of the items listed above, Jesus commands me to love others. When I am walking in the Spirit rather than the flesh, this occurs more often, resulting in love, whether I am on the giving or receiving end of it.
When I get off course, I am reminded of how God pursued me. 1 John 4:19 says, "We love because he first loved us." Not only did God send his son to die
for me and make me righteous, he also continues to pursue me, daily, through his word and his Holy Spirit.
What does this mean to me as a mom? I am to pursue relationships with my children. If you are a mom to young children, this may sound strange to you-they are always with me; how could I ever have to pursue them? In fact, I would relish the opportunity to be away long enough to be pursued :)
If you are a parent of teens or older, maybe this makes a lot of sense to you. One thing I would like to do this summer is learn my kids' love language. The Five Love Languages ( also one is available geared to teens) by Gary Chapman is an excellent book on this topic.
One of my goals this summer is to learn my kids' love languages. I desire to communicate to them that they matter, that I love them.
I encourage you to be a pursuer-of God first and foremost, and to others. It is a worthy investment.
Pattie
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Rest
Needed? Don't get enough of it? Aaahhh, sounds delightful? Many ideas pop into our mind when we think of rest. Sometimes rest is voluntary; other times it is imposed upon us. Either way, rest is important-for people big and small. In Genesis 2:2 we learn that on the seventh day God rested from all his work.
This time of year finds many of us on vacation. At one time (probably when I was a kid), I equated vacation with rest. Seeing new places, eating more than my share of junk food, staying up later than usual-carefree and restful (even if I was exhausted and fell into bed at the day's end).
Presently, I believe vacations can be restful. However, they can prove to be stressful and exhausting, with only a rare occurrence of rest thrown in.
Many factors contribute to the degree of rest one experiences on vacation. Recently, most of my immediate family spent time on the Colorado River for a three-day weekend. Our group consisted of extended family, a generous couple who hosted all of us, as well as a half dozen young adults. We had opportunities to float down the river, ride Sea Doos and Rhinos as well as stay cool with ping pong, puzzles and food, of course.
The larger the group, the longer it takes to move. The initial call to action occurs and then time is spent assembling people, items, drinks, and other needed accessories. This was not stressful for me, but it did stretch three of my children, who were rearing to go early in the morning.
My form of rest resulted in illness. I spent the last day and-a-half in my room, feeling quite awful. Not the rest I envisioned.
This weekend we find ourselves in Reno for a friend's wedding. The difference here is we have friends we want to visit and the challenge is getting everyone where they want to go. When the kids were younger, vacations to places we previously lived consisted of all of us seeing people at one time. This has changed as they have grown and maintained relationships with different people. Yet, it is restful-our group is smaller; we aren't gathering gear for an event (except towels for Sand Harbor).
The most important form of rest is in our spirit. Jesus tells us in Matthew 11:28-29, "“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls". Such comfort comes from knowing I am not alone; that whatever challenges I face, my God is with me, with open arms, waiting for me to cast all my anxiety on him because he cares for me (1 Peter 5:7).
I encourage you to leave your burdens at his feet. Our God loves us extravagantly, and knows us intimately. His desire is that we allow him to be first in our lives, surrendering our very lives, which includes our schedules, finances, relationships, and time, to him. In that we will find rest. May the words of Psalm 139 bring you encouragement-
You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain. Psalm 139:1-6
Pattie
Needed? Don't get enough of it? Aaahhh, sounds delightful? Many ideas pop into our mind when we think of rest. Sometimes rest is voluntary; other times it is imposed upon us. Either way, rest is important-for people big and small. In Genesis 2:2 we learn that on the seventh day God rested from all his work.
This time of year finds many of us on vacation. At one time (probably when I was a kid), I equated vacation with rest. Seeing new places, eating more than my share of junk food, staying up later than usual-carefree and restful (even if I was exhausted and fell into bed at the day's end).
Presently, I believe vacations can be restful. However, they can prove to be stressful and exhausting, with only a rare occurrence of rest thrown in.
Many factors contribute to the degree of rest one experiences on vacation. Recently, most of my immediate family spent time on the Colorado River for a three-day weekend. Our group consisted of extended family, a generous couple who hosted all of us, as well as a half dozen young adults. We had opportunities to float down the river, ride Sea Doos and Rhinos as well as stay cool with ping pong, puzzles and food, of course.
The larger the group, the longer it takes to move. The initial call to action occurs and then time is spent assembling people, items, drinks, and other needed accessories. This was not stressful for me, but it did stretch three of my children, who were rearing to go early in the morning.
My form of rest resulted in illness. I spent the last day and-a-half in my room, feeling quite awful. Not the rest I envisioned.
This weekend we find ourselves in Reno for a friend's wedding. The difference here is we have friends we want to visit and the challenge is getting everyone where they want to go. When the kids were younger, vacations to places we previously lived consisted of all of us seeing people at one time. This has changed as they have grown and maintained relationships with different people. Yet, it is restful-our group is smaller; we aren't gathering gear for an event (except towels for Sand Harbor).
The most important form of rest is in our spirit. Jesus tells us in Matthew 11:28-29, "“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls". Such comfort comes from knowing I am not alone; that whatever challenges I face, my God is with me, with open arms, waiting for me to cast all my anxiety on him because he cares for me (1 Peter 5:7).
I encourage you to leave your burdens at his feet. Our God loves us extravagantly, and knows us intimately. His desire is that we allow him to be first in our lives, surrendering our very lives, which includes our schedules, finances, relationships, and time, to him. In that we will find rest. May the words of Psalm 139 bring you encouragement-
You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain. Psalm 139:1-6
Pattie
Sunday, June 29, 2014
Sacrifice
Sacrifice
As I begin to write, doubt fills my mind-people want inspiring, hopeful messages; there is enough tragedy out there, don't add to it.
Yet I am compelled to share what burdens my heart in the past few weeks. A seventeen year old's life no longer due to a self-inflicted gunshot wound; a twenty year old college student whose life ended when he jumped off a cliff. A middle aged man who battled alcoholism ended his life by shooting himself; receiving a phone call from a friend who needs to get away with her two sons, as her husband deals with his alcoholism.
So much pain, darkness, and hopelessness permeates our world. We know from scripture that the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy (John 10:10). By many accounts, he appears to be succeeding. One needs only to read a few pages of a newspaper or listen at the top of the hour on the radio to learn of the most recent tragedies.
Despite the way our world appears, I propose to you another view: there is hope, and it comes from the giver of life, Jesus. The remainder of verse ten as well as eleven states, "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep".
Walking with Jesus does not protect one from hardships. Actually, we can count
on challenges as John 16:33 states, "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world".
Although the above words paint a grim picture, I have hope, joy, and contentment. Where does one begin with such a vast, complex topic? There are questions I will not have answered until I meet Jesus in heaven-why do children die tragic deaths? How old is the earth? Why do people married over a half century have to continue living when their lifelong spouse dies? Wouldn't it be better for both if they died at the same time? The list is quite long.
Having the answers to those questions, however, would not affect my day-to-
day life. I am learning an even greater dependence upon my Lord; as my husband and I parent four, soon to be five, teenagers, I need advice, patience,
wisdom, humor to guide them into young adulthood.When I am frustrated, sick, anxious, I go to him because he tells me to cast my cares upon him because he cares for me (1 Peter 5:7). When a huge expense occurs, I pray and ask him for guidance. As we moved to a new area, he again provided an amazing church and homeschool community.
I could brag on Jesus all day long. I have learned that walking any day with him, no matter the challenges it presents, is infinitely better than relying on my own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6).
The key to this intimacy is twofold: knowing him and believing who I am because of him.
There are many ways and recommendations about how to draw close to God. A "formula" does not exist. Having a relationship with Jesus involves spending time with him, just as it does with relationships on earth. Some of the things that have become part of my rhythm (some more than others) over the years include worshiping him through song (he does not care I am off tune :), reading his word, talking to him throughout the day (in the car, while exercising, during strained moments with my husband or children), fasting, serving him (either at church or in my community or neighborhood), and enjoying his creation (skiing, hiking, hanging at the park).
It has taken me much longer to believe who I am because of him and his sacrifice. The experiences of our childhood significantly impact our view of
our God. This in itself is its own post. I will say that it takes a reprogramming of our minds, sometimes intense prayer to break strongholds and lies, as well
as knowing the word and the promises and truths in it. When Jesus died on the cross, he took ALL my sins, past, present, and future, and paid the price so I could spend eternity with him. When I accepted him as my Lord and Savior, I became righteous-not because of anything I did, but because of what he did for me.
One of the things that has stuck with me since my first Beth Moore bible study, Believing God, is the following- "I am blessed, chosen, adopted; accepted, redeemed, forgiven. I'm believing God". You would be surprised how often that phrase comes to mind.
The enemy would have me believe any variety of lies that keep me from
experiencing joy and life. It is a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:12) and fortunately for me, and any follower of Jesus, we have a strategy (Hebrews 4:12 states, "For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart").
So how does all this tie in to parenting our little ones? Ask the Lord to show you how to convey their identity in him, appropriate to their age and stage. Do not overlook the importance of daily reading the bible with/to them. Share your God stories with them. Let them hear you praying and praising the Lord. Play worship music at home or while in the car. Serve The Lord together (helping someone move, bringing a meal to someone sick or who just had a baby). The Lord will show you because it is his heart and will that your children know and follow him.
Be encouraged. Seek him first and he will guide you and grow you to be more like him. Jesus doesn't require perfection, but he does ask us to live a life surrendered to him, a living sacrifice (Romans 12:1-2).
As I begin to write, doubt fills my mind-people want inspiring, hopeful messages; there is enough tragedy out there, don't add to it.
Yet I am compelled to share what burdens my heart in the past few weeks. A seventeen year old's life no longer due to a self-inflicted gunshot wound; a twenty year old college student whose life ended when he jumped off a cliff. A middle aged man who battled alcoholism ended his life by shooting himself; receiving a phone call from a friend who needs to get away with her two sons, as her husband deals with his alcoholism.
So much pain, darkness, and hopelessness permeates our world. We know from scripture that the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy (John 10:10). By many accounts, he appears to be succeeding. One needs only to read a few pages of a newspaper or listen at the top of the hour on the radio to learn of the most recent tragedies.
Despite the way our world appears, I propose to you another view: there is hope, and it comes from the giver of life, Jesus. The remainder of verse ten as well as eleven states, "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep".
Walking with Jesus does not protect one from hardships. Actually, we can count
on challenges as John 16:33 states, "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world".
Although the above words paint a grim picture, I have hope, joy, and contentment. Where does one begin with such a vast, complex topic? There are questions I will not have answered until I meet Jesus in heaven-why do children die tragic deaths? How old is the earth? Why do people married over a half century have to continue living when their lifelong spouse dies? Wouldn't it be better for both if they died at the same time? The list is quite long.
Having the answers to those questions, however, would not affect my day-to-
day life. I am learning an even greater dependence upon my Lord; as my husband and I parent four, soon to be five, teenagers, I need advice, patience,
wisdom, humor to guide them into young adulthood.When I am frustrated, sick, anxious, I go to him because he tells me to cast my cares upon him because he cares for me (1 Peter 5:7). When a huge expense occurs, I pray and ask him for guidance. As we moved to a new area, he again provided an amazing church and homeschool community.
I could brag on Jesus all day long. I have learned that walking any day with him, no matter the challenges it presents, is infinitely better than relying on my own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6).
The key to this intimacy is twofold: knowing him and believing who I am because of him.
There are many ways and recommendations about how to draw close to God. A "formula" does not exist. Having a relationship with Jesus involves spending time with him, just as it does with relationships on earth. Some of the things that have become part of my rhythm (some more than others) over the years include worshiping him through song (he does not care I am off tune :), reading his word, talking to him throughout the day (in the car, while exercising, during strained moments with my husband or children), fasting, serving him (either at church or in my community or neighborhood), and enjoying his creation (skiing, hiking, hanging at the park).
It has taken me much longer to believe who I am because of him and his sacrifice. The experiences of our childhood significantly impact our view of
our God. This in itself is its own post. I will say that it takes a reprogramming of our minds, sometimes intense prayer to break strongholds and lies, as well
as knowing the word and the promises and truths in it. When Jesus died on the cross, he took ALL my sins, past, present, and future, and paid the price so I could spend eternity with him. When I accepted him as my Lord and Savior, I became righteous-not because of anything I did, but because of what he did for me.
One of the things that has stuck with me since my first Beth Moore bible study, Believing God, is the following- "I am blessed, chosen, adopted; accepted, redeemed, forgiven. I'm believing God". You would be surprised how often that phrase comes to mind.
The enemy would have me believe any variety of lies that keep me from
experiencing joy and life. It is a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:12) and fortunately for me, and any follower of Jesus, we have a strategy (Hebrews 4:12 states, "For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart").
So how does all this tie in to parenting our little ones? Ask the Lord to show you how to convey their identity in him, appropriate to their age and stage. Do not overlook the importance of daily reading the bible with/to them. Share your God stories with them. Let them hear you praying and praising the Lord. Play worship music at home or while in the car. Serve The Lord together (helping someone move, bringing a meal to someone sick or who just had a baby). The Lord will show you because it is his heart and will that your children know and follow him.
Be encouraged. Seek him first and he will guide you and grow you to be more like him. Jesus doesn't require perfection, but he does ask us to live a life surrendered to him, a living sacrifice (Romans 12:1-2).
Friday, June 20, 2014
Learn to Overlook
Learn to Overlook
When using a magnifying glass (or reading glasses, if that is the season you are experiencing :), things appear larger than they are in reality. The Lord has gently revealed to me that I need an updated prescription.
Proverbs 19:11 states, "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense". The first part of this verse sounds doable. The rest of it, however, is difficult for me to swallow (honestly, gag is a more appropriate word here).
In case I needed further confirmation, upon reading one of my favorite blogs, I Take Joy, I came across this gem: "Do not point out every single one of your children’s flaws. If God followed me around all day long correcting me, I wouldn’t want to be a Christian" (See more at: http://www.itakejoy.com).
Ouch!
I love our Lord's timing. This was revealed to me this morning, after having spent an evening out with my family. These days, it isn't often all (or even most) of us are at,home or in the car together. While eating dinner, we began discussing our vacation this summer to the state of Washington. We will be driving there, (approximately eighteen hours) and that is causing some of us angst.
Always ready for adventure, I wanted to visit a coffee shop we have not yet tried. Some were game and others were coerced to join us. Our discussion about vacation continued in the car. Actually, it centered around a great deal of
complaining by one of my children-"It's going to be awful; we can't be in the car that long together; we can't let ---- drive".
By the time we returned home, I was frustrated in general, and angry, specifically, with one child. I replayed the evening over in my mind and convinced myself my anger was justified. I had decided I was taking away some electronics to show that child there are consequences for bad attitudes.
This morning The Lord worked in my heart to show me I was the one with the
bad attitude. Was there some attitude with this child? Yes. Should there be consequences for that? Yes. However, the above verse in Proverbs stood out to me from all the rest in that chapter. I asked myself how often do I overlook an offense. Not many, if I am honest. One of my favorite pastors says, "What scriptures are you currently ignoring to continue living the lifestyle you are living?"
Notice that the scripture uses the word "glory" rather than "credit" to describe the effect of overlooking an offense. Interesting that the word "glory" remains constant in the ESV, New American Standard, as well as the King James Version. Glory brings with it such a depth that isn't found with the word credit.
I see the connection between wisdom, patience, and glory. Psalm 111:10 states, "The fear of The Lord is the beginning of wisdom". Galatians 5:22 states, "The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." Our final piece is the verse which prompted this post: "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense."
The Lord also brought Romans 2:4 to mind-"Or do you show contempt for the
riches of his kindness, tolerance, and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?" For many years, one of my struggles has been understanding the concept of grace. That in itself is such a full, complex issue deserving of its own post.
When I read the bible, I see the one and only perfect parent. God is loving, kind, compassionate, and merciful. He welcomes me with open arms, and his mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:23). Yet, when needed, he disciplines me- Hebrews 11:5-6 “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because The Lord disciplines the one he loves". Upon careful examination, my only right response to my children is to parent them as the Lord parents me-lovingly, graciously.
That is the prescription I need to see clearly.
Pattie
In case I needed further confirmation, upon reading one of my favorite blogs, I Take Joy, I came across this gem: "Do not point out every single one of your children’s flaws. If God followed me around all day long correcting me, I wouldn’t want to be a Christian" (See more at: http://www.itakejoy.com).
Ouch!
I love our Lord's timing. This was revealed to me this morning, after having spent an evening out with my family. These days, it isn't often all (or even most) of us are at,home or in the car together. While eating dinner, we began discussing our vacation this summer to the state of Washington. We will be driving there, (approximately eighteen hours) and that is causing some of us angst.
Always ready for adventure, I wanted to visit a coffee shop we have not yet tried. Some were game and others were coerced to join us. Our discussion about vacation continued in the car. Actually, it centered around a great deal of
complaining by one of my children-"It's going to be awful; we can't be in the car that long together; we can't let ---- drive".
By the time we returned home, I was frustrated in general, and angry, specifically, with one child. I replayed the evening over in my mind and convinced myself my anger was justified. I had decided I was taking away some electronics to show that child there are consequences for bad attitudes.
This morning The Lord worked in my heart to show me I was the one with the
bad attitude. Was there some attitude with this child? Yes. Should there be consequences for that? Yes. However, the above verse in Proverbs stood out to me from all the rest in that chapter. I asked myself how often do I overlook an offense. Not many, if I am honest. One of my favorite pastors says, "What scriptures are you currently ignoring to continue living the lifestyle you are living?"
Notice that the scripture uses the word "glory" rather than "credit" to describe the effect of overlooking an offense. Interesting that the word "glory" remains constant in the ESV, New American Standard, as well as the King James Version. Glory brings with it such a depth that isn't found with the word credit.
I see the connection between wisdom, patience, and glory. Psalm 111:10 states, "The fear of The Lord is the beginning of wisdom". Galatians 5:22 states, "The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." Our final piece is the verse which prompted this post: "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense."
The Lord also brought Romans 2:4 to mind-"Or do you show contempt for the
riches of his kindness, tolerance, and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?" For many years, one of my struggles has been understanding the concept of grace. That in itself is such a full, complex issue deserving of its own post.
When I read the bible, I see the one and only perfect parent. God is loving, kind, compassionate, and merciful. He welcomes me with open arms, and his mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:23). Yet, when needed, he disciplines me- Hebrews 11:5-6 “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because The Lord disciplines the one he loves". Upon careful examination, my only right response to my children is to parent them as the Lord parents me-lovingly, graciously.
That is the prescription I need to see clearly.
Pattie
Saturday, June 14, 2014
Treasures on the Couch
Treasures from the Couch
On Memorial Day, I was blessed with time with my nieces' kids (great-nephews?) while they dashed to Target sans children (flashback-oh! how freeing it was for me to go to the store! dentist! even yearly doctor's visits alone).
Seizing to capitalize on this precious moment, I retrieved some of my favorite picture books from our bookcase and eagerly began reading aloud The Very Busy Spider, A Pocket for Cordoroy, and a Little Critter book, Just Me and My Mom.
I told my daughter I needed to exert self-control and not allow myself to tear up right there on the couch! When we finished reading, the boys leapt off the couch onto their next adventure with my kids.
That moment blessed my day and remained with me-so many warm memories rush to mind related to this valuable, cozy, love-bank-depositing experience of reading to our children.
As I observe parents with their little ones today, I see a myriad of electronic devices used to entertain these precious kiddos. It is a common occurrence to hear, "Mom, can I use your phone?" if the child doesn't already have their own. More often than not, iPads, rather than books, are given on short drives in the
car, in the waiting room at doctor's visits, or while strolling through the grocery store.
There is a time and place for everything, and I am sure studies exist which support, or at least do not disparage the use of electronics in our daily lives. Although some of my children would heartily disagree, I do see their place and even embrace the convenience of having a computer at fingers' length away (such as when I'm driving around vast southern California highways).
However, there is no replacement for a loving parent. Nobody will love your child as much as you do. As entertaining as television and electronic games can be, they are not you. There is a difference between my son playing Gravity Guy 2 on my phone and us playing war with cards or grabbing those around for a quick round of Guesstures.
I encourage you to make reading aloud (or together if your child is at that stage) a daily part of your routine. Snuggling on the couch before nap time, reading, again, before bed your child's favorite story, or relaxing on a blanket while under a shady tree at the park, all do much to build intimacy between you and your child.
You would think that my reading aloud days are finished. Emphatically, I say, "No!" I still read aloud the bible to my youngest, and since we homeschool I have daily opportunities to build more treasures on the couch.
Pattie
On Memorial Day, I was blessed with time with my nieces' kids (great-nephews?) while they dashed to Target sans children (flashback-oh! how freeing it was for me to go to the store! dentist! even yearly doctor's visits alone).
Seizing to capitalize on this precious moment, I retrieved some of my favorite picture books from our bookcase and eagerly began reading aloud The Very Busy Spider, A Pocket for Cordoroy, and a Little Critter book, Just Me and My Mom.
I told my daughter I needed to exert self-control and not allow myself to tear up right there on the couch! When we finished reading, the boys leapt off the couch onto their next adventure with my kids.
That moment blessed my day and remained with me-so many warm memories rush to mind related to this valuable, cozy, love-bank-depositing experience of reading to our children.
As I observe parents with their little ones today, I see a myriad of electronic devices used to entertain these precious kiddos. It is a common occurrence to hear, "Mom, can I use your phone?" if the child doesn't already have their own. More often than not, iPads, rather than books, are given on short drives in the
car, in the waiting room at doctor's visits, or while strolling through the grocery store.
There is a time and place for everything, and I am sure studies exist which support, or at least do not disparage the use of electronics in our daily lives. Although some of my children would heartily disagree, I do see their place and even embrace the convenience of having a computer at fingers' length away (such as when I'm driving around vast southern California highways).
However, there is no replacement for a loving parent. Nobody will love your child as much as you do. As entertaining as television and electronic games can be, they are not you. There is a difference between my son playing Gravity Guy 2 on my phone and us playing war with cards or grabbing those around for a quick round of Guesstures.
I encourage you to make reading aloud (or together if your child is at that stage) a daily part of your routine. Snuggling on the couch before nap time, reading, again, before bed your child's favorite story, or relaxing on a blanket while under a shady tree at the park, all do much to build intimacy between you and your child.
You would think that my reading aloud days are finished. Emphatically, I say, "No!" I still read aloud the bible to my youngest, and since we homeschool I have daily opportunities to build more treasures on the couch.
Pattie
Friday, June 6, 2014
Friday, May 30, 2014
The Beginning
The Beginning
"The burden comes from The Lord". I first heard those words many years ago when a seasoned pastor preached his first series to a church in need of vision and leadership.
Little did I know the impacts and influence it would have on me several years later.
For the first time in many years, I have the gift of time in my schedule. Upon moving to California in the summer of 2013, my once-daily routine of homeschooling my five children (four boys-18,17,17,11 and one girl 14) was altered. My eldest son began college and my second son enrolled in high school in order to continue in the JROTC program he started in Hawaii.
Due to the fact we were new in town, we were not participating in a homeschool co-op either, which had also been a weekly occurrence for the past four years.
Needless to say, I was eager to begin something anew and began seeking the Lord as to how best use my time. Throughout the past few months, He has revealed to me, piece by piece (not my preferred method of planning :), his plans for me.
Encouraging women in their role as moms brings me joy. After attending a Wholehearted conference (Sally Clarkson, itake joy.com)in Southern California in 2011, I led my first MOM's group (Mission of Motherhood) with six women in Honolulu. A pregnant woman in church asked several times when I was going to start another book study. After several interactions with her, a second MOM's book study began, in her cozy kitchen, in June 2012. Two of my children cared for the little ones, three feet away, blocked by a three-foot gate, with lots of crying. At this point, the hostess of the group was a new mom to an eleven month old, struggling with whether or not to work or stay home.
After completing Sally's book The Mission of Motherhood, the group continued
meeting weekly. Our gatherings included other book studies (To Train Up a
Child, Michael Pearl, Created to Be His Helpmeet, Debi Pearl), discussion and prayer, as well as the occasional mom's night out to celebrate birthdays. We gave baby showers, brought meals after one of them gave birth, collected money to support those in financial need, as well as celebrated Christmas with a cookie exchange. My first brunch was held in May of 2013, in honor of Mother's Day.
Last week, during my first trip to Hawaii since moving, The Lord blessed me with the opportunity to gather with them-ten moms and twelve little ones (plus two in the womb), enjoying fellowship and breakfast at a favorite restaurant. The group, is now facilitated by one of the original MOM's members.
Earlier this month I hosted brunch for a group of moms from my new church in
Southern California. In case I needed further assurance this is His will for me, Carissa, a mom who,was part of the Honolulu group (recently relocated back to CA and we go to church together) who attended the brunch in Hawaii last year, showed up at the one in California, along with her daughter and three-week old son!
Several people have suggested I start a blog-yet, I believed the lie, "Who would want to hear what I have to say?" While visiting with my former pastor in Hawaii, I mentioned what the Lord has been showing me, along with my reservations (what if nobody reads it?). He wisely shared the secret to his longevity as a pastor: "I preach to an audience of one". That confirmed to me that I am to go forward with this-sharing my heart for moms via a blog.
So... Here I am today-excited, nervous, eager, vulnerable. May you be blessed as you follow the Lord's command to raise your children in the fear and admonition of The Lord.
Pattie
"The burden comes from The Lord". I first heard those words many years ago when a seasoned pastor preached his first series to a church in need of vision and leadership.
Little did I know the impacts and influence it would have on me several years later.
For the first time in many years, I have the gift of time in my schedule. Upon moving to California in the summer of 2013, my once-daily routine of homeschooling my five children (four boys-18,17,17,11 and one girl 14) was altered. My eldest son began college and my second son enrolled in high school in order to continue in the JROTC program he started in Hawaii.
Due to the fact we were new in town, we were not participating in a homeschool co-op either, which had also been a weekly occurrence for the past four years.
Needless to say, I was eager to begin something anew and began seeking the Lord as to how best use my time. Throughout the past few months, He has revealed to me, piece by piece (not my preferred method of planning :), his plans for me.
Encouraging women in their role as moms brings me joy. After attending a Wholehearted conference (Sally Clarkson, itake joy.com)in Southern California in 2011, I led my first MOM's group (Mission of Motherhood) with six women in Honolulu. A pregnant woman in church asked several times when I was going to start another book study. After several interactions with her, a second MOM's book study began, in her cozy kitchen, in June 2012. Two of my children cared for the little ones, three feet away, blocked by a three-foot gate, with lots of crying. At this point, the hostess of the group was a new mom to an eleven month old, struggling with whether or not to work or stay home.
After completing Sally's book The Mission of Motherhood, the group continued
meeting weekly. Our gatherings included other book studies (To Train Up a
Child, Michael Pearl, Created to Be His Helpmeet, Debi Pearl), discussion and prayer, as well as the occasional mom's night out to celebrate birthdays. We gave baby showers, brought meals after one of them gave birth, collected money to support those in financial need, as well as celebrated Christmas with a cookie exchange. My first brunch was held in May of 2013, in honor of Mother's Day.
Last week, during my first trip to Hawaii since moving, The Lord blessed me with the opportunity to gather with them-ten moms and twelve little ones (plus two in the womb), enjoying fellowship and breakfast at a favorite restaurant. The group, is now facilitated by one of the original MOM's members.
Earlier this month I hosted brunch for a group of moms from my new church in
Southern California. In case I needed further assurance this is His will for me, Carissa, a mom who,was part of the Honolulu group (recently relocated back to CA and we go to church together) who attended the brunch in Hawaii last year, showed up at the one in California, along with her daughter and three-week old son!
Several people have suggested I start a blog-yet, I believed the lie, "Who would want to hear what I have to say?" While visiting with my former pastor in Hawaii, I mentioned what the Lord has been showing me, along with my reservations (what if nobody reads it?). He wisely shared the secret to his longevity as a pastor: "I preach to an audience of one". That confirmed to me that I am to go forward with this-sharing my heart for moms via a blog.
So... Here I am today-excited, nervous, eager, vulnerable. May you be blessed as you follow the Lord's command to raise your children in the fear and admonition of The Lord.
Pattie
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